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# Colorado Couples Counseling and Sex Therapy: Lisa Thomas is a seasoned therapist in Denver, specializing in Couples Counseling and Sex Therapy. With over 20 years of experience, she empowers clients to navigate emotional and sexual challenges.

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- [Nurturing Intimacy, A Guide to Overcoming Low Sexual Desire in Relationships](https://onlinecouch.com/nurturing-intimacy-low-desire-in-relationships/): Intimacy is a vital aspect of any romantic relationship, and a healthy sexual connection plays a significant role in maintaining emotional closeness. However, it\'s not uncommon for couples to face challenges related to low sexual desire. This issue can arise due to various factors, including stress, hormonal imbalances, parenting, job changes and life stress. In this blog post, we\'ll explore practical strategies and communication techniques to help couples navigate this sensitive topic and rekindle their intimate connection.
- [9 Tips for a Hot and Healthy Marriage](https://onlinecouch.com/9-tips-for-a-hot-and-healthy-marriage/): Have boundaries set around your immediate or nuclear family.  Have individual, couples & family time built into your routine and redefined lines of connection with each spouse’s family of origin. Touch each other often.  Have a good connection around non-sexual physical touching, hand holding, kissing hello & goodbye, laying together, sitting on the couch next to each other. Say I love you to one another.  Hearing this is reassuring about the way your partner feels about your relationship. It’s a small gesture that can keep your connection alive. Have regular physical intimacy dates.  Having an ongoing sexual relationship in your marriage is important.  Couple in their 20’s average relations 2-4 times a week, couples in their 30’s twice per week, 40’s & 50’s once to twice per week.  Pay attention to the frequency so as you aren’t being sexual less than twice per month and slipping into a routine that doesn’t give priority to connecting in a physical way.  Maintaining your physical connection gives your marriage staying power and protects it from the stresses of life.  Create time either spontaneously or planned to follow through with regular sex and intimacy.  Your sexual relationship should be a tension reducer, not a tension producer. Compliment your partner in front of other people.  Not only is it a nice thing to do, it helps your partner feel a deep sense of attachment to you as well as builds their self-esteem.  It’s also good modeling for your children to see you being complementary to one another. Every so often, have sex using a different sexual script.  By mixing up your usual order of kissing, foreplay and intercourse you can reconnect in an amazing way.  By initiating mixing up the script you take ownership of pleasure and eroticism in your marriage.  Nothing is hotter than feeling desired and having a partner who takes charge of our sexual relationship. Regularly give each other small gifts or gestures of loving and caring behaviors.  Write your spouse a loving note, get them a special treat from the store or when you go on a business trip, write I love you in lipstick on the bathroom mirror one morning.  By paying attention to this you can help your marriage maintain a ongoing connection. When you are being sexual, open your eyes.  Feeling even more daring?  Lock a gaze during your orgasm.  Doing this involves courage and letting your partner really see you, the essence of true intimacy, in-to-me-see.  Your partner will have never felt so loved, connected and prioritized as a moment like this.  Better than any romantic getaway any day, can be done at home anytime. Have regular dates to keep your connection alive and have regular (weekly) couple’s business meetings to discuss ongoing family business including the division of roles and household duties.  Keep these times separated so date night can be about connecting and organizational night can be about problem solving.  Discussion of traditional role marriages verses partnership marriages and how to do modern marriage.
- [Dating After Divorce](https://onlinecouch.com/dating-after-divorce/): So you find yourself back being single and interested in the possibility of dating again. You are either arriving back into the dating scene, or you may already be in a dating relationship. Sooner or later, the question will pop into your head, what about sex and intimacy while dating?
- [The Worst Time for Sex](https://onlinecouch.com/the-worst-time-for-sex/): Depending on the person, night time sex can also rev you up, making you bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right before trying to sleep, adds Lisa Thomas, LCSW, LMFT, DAACS, licensed relationship and sex therapist. But for other couples, it might have the opposite effect. “For the majority of people, sex is a tension reducer and relaxer,” she says. “People have sex before sleep to help them fall asleep.” Find out more...
- [Steps to Being Happier with your Significant Other](https://onlinecouch.com/steps-to-being-happier-with-your-significant-other/): Relationships are tough, with the stresses of life and the fast pace everyone seems to be moving at, prioritizing one\'s relationship can be tough.  Here are a few strategies to slow down and be happier in your relationship.
- [Curing Premature Ejaculation](https://onlinecouch.com/curing-premature-ejaculation/): Premature Ejaculation can be a terrible problem to have.  The amount of suffering and the blow to a man’s self-esteem is enormous.  I know this because I work as a Sex Therapist and Relationship Expert in a Private Practice setting in Denver, Colorado.  I have clients contact me from all over the world looking for the Premature Ejaculation Cure.  This is the advice I give to these men.
- [Dating to Save Your Marriage](https://onlinecouch.com/dating-to-save-your-marriage/): Are you unhappy? Do you desperately want to save your marriage? Take back your relationship by dating your spouse. Make a plan for your date and learn how to have an emotional intimacy date followed by a physical intimacy date. Looking forward to spending time together is critical, learn what to do and not do on the date to create success.
- [Fixing a Broken Relationship](https://onlinecouch.com/fixing-a-broken-relationship/): You CAN be successful in fixing a broken relationship and reconnecting with your partner. It may not be easy, but here’s some advice on where to begin.
- [Healing Erectile Dysfunction](https://onlinecouch.com/healing-erectile-dysfunction/): Are you a man struggling with erectile problems?  You may believe that you will have difficulty with this forever or that is not solvable unless you take medication for the problem but a pill may not fix all of the trouble.  Here’s why…. For most men, erectile problems are caused by an anxiety issue, not a medical issue.  While prescriptions such as Viagra, Levitra and Cialis may help to solve the problem of getting your penis hard, you may not get to the core of why your penis is having difficulty getting hard in the first place.  By then you are committed to taking prescriptions and “timing” when we are sexual for the rest of your sexual relationship.  Getting to the core of the anxiety and taking back control of your body is what we will be discussing in this article.
- [How can I forgive you after infidelity or divorce?](https://onlinecouch.com/forgiveness-after-infidelity-or-divorce/): The truth is that forgiveness is much more complex and for genuine forgiveness to take place, it often involves more than just letting it go. Let’s explore some assumptions on forgiveness.
- [Tips for Premature Ejaculation](https://onlinecouch.com/tips-for-premature-ejaculation/): Here are some tips for controlling your premature ejaculation. Begin by self-stimulating regularly (3-5 times / week) to become accustomed to the level of sensitivity and stimulation:. Try stimulating the scrotum only for a while: maybe several weeks. Then, eventually, you should be able to stimulate with varying force and pressure until you decide to ejaculate.
- [Getting the Sex You Want, Tonight!](https://onlinecouch.com/getting-the-sex-you-want-tonight/): Tired of not getting the sex you want? How many couples keep having the same boring, routine, disconnected sex night after night? Do you desire to be sexual in a fresh way? A way that feels more connected, more erotic? How do we get there? Read on to refresh and reconnect your sex life.
- [Desire Disorders; Diagnosis and Treatment of a Common Problem](https://onlinecouch.com/desire-disorders/): Recently, researchers conducted a national survey which concluded that low sexual desire is one of the top two reasons that people seek assistance for sexual concerns. Research concluded that 33% of women reported that they lacked sexual interest and the number of men presenting in therapy for problems with desire is on the rise (Laumann, 1994).
- [Getting Marriage Right This Time](https://onlinecouch.com/getting-marriage-right-this-time/): The idea of getting into other relationships after a divorce may sound about as appealing as having a root canal.  Truthfully, the percentage of people who will remarry within 5 years of divorce is roughly 54%.  At some point when you are ready to look for love again, you may ask yourself “What contributes to relationships being successful?”
- [Single Sex; Dating After Divorce](https://onlinecouch.com/single-sex-dating-after-divorce/): Do you need some advice about sex and dating after a divorce? You find yourself back being single and interested in the possibility of dating again, you are either arriving back into the dating scene, or you may already be in a dating relationship. Sooner or later, the question will pop into your head, what about sex and intimacy while dating? What is acceptable behavior verses not and how can you gauge the difference? Using a set of guidelines may be helpful when trying to navigate through the ropes of being sexual while dating again.
- [Sex Starved Relationships](https://onlinecouch.com/sex-starved-relationships/): Why is sex important in a relationship? Sex is an activity that keeps us connected as a couple. It is a significant form of intimacy. When couples aren't having sex or having sex less frequently than desired, often times they are not touching to even include kissing or holding hands out of discomfort that it could lead to sex. It is unfortunately not unheard of for couples to split over different visions of what the sexual relationship should look like. Sex starved relationships are defined as couples who have sex less than ten times a year. A lack of sex in a relationship can have several contributing causes but the top two are a lack of sexual desire or relationship discord.
- [Tips for Sex Starved Relationships](https://onlinecouch.com/tips-for-sex-starved-relationships/): Are you and your partner having trouble in bed? Do you need some tips for a sex starved relationship? In this blog, we will be covering the following...
- [The Best Marriage Tips](https://onlinecouch.com/the-best-marriage-tips/): How’s your relationship doing?  Between the children, both of your jobs, the economy, money stresses, the in-laws and the bosses there is a lot on the “to do” list.  How can we make our marriage a priority and be that couple with the best marriage? Here are the best marriage tips to follow to keep things hot.
- [After the Affair](https://onlinecouch.com/after-the-affair/): Approximately 30% of marriages end in divorce after infidelity.  If your marriage ended because your spouse had been unfaithful, your feelings after the affair and how to cope with them can be difficult to figure out.  The following tips may be helpful in grieving the loss of the relationship and helping to prepare you to begin on your new life’s journey, after the affair.
- [Rebound Relationships](https://onlinecouch.com/rebound-relationships/): Following a separation or a divorce, often one finds themselves looking for love once again. Some individuals grieve the loss of their last relationship slowly, while others will rush into another relationship almost right away. These “rushed into” relationships can be defined as “rebound relationships” meaning that they are taking the place of a lost relationship in a short amount of time following a separation or divorce.
- [Sexual Dysfunction, What’s The Deal?](https://onlinecouch.com/sexual-dysfunction-whats-the-deal/): According to a 1999 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), 43% of the females suffer from Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) while 47% of men can be expected to experience Erectile Dysfunction (ED) during a sexual encounter. It is also estimated that around 70% of couples have some problems with sexual functioning. With over half of the population experiencing problems in the bedroom, what are the current treatment options?
- [Breakdown of Trust; A Resource Guide For Couples](https://onlinecouch.com/building-trust-guide-for-couples/): Having trouble building trust in yourself or partner? Trust is a fundamental building block in a relationship; however, it is important to have trust in one\'s self. It is also interesting to know that individuals who do not trust themselves often project this lack of trust upon others. By building a basic level of trust within one\'s self, one can begin to experience more satisfying and emotionally close relationships. The following ideas are from the book Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Dr. Bruce Fisher and Virginia Satir. The book speaks of assessment and treatment views regarding the breakdown of trust in a love relationship as a common theme.
- [Jumpstart My Libido](https://onlinecouch.com/jumpstart-my-libido/): How does one jumpstart their libido?  Often times when there has been a divorce, the couple had not been sexual for some time.  The divorce didn’t just signify the end of the marriage; it also meant the end of having a physical relationship with another, for a time.
- [Why and How Marriage Counseling Works](https://onlinecouch.com/why-how-mariage-counseling-works/): Feel like your relationship could be better?  Stuck in the same circle of problems that you can’t seem to get out of?  Thought about marriage counseling but weary about the results?  Find out why and how marriage counseling works and how it can help you and your relationship.

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